Divorce Is Hard
The pain of divorce is often more manageable with time. I can speak from personal experience to the pain of divorce. I went through divorce almost 29 years ago and some of the emotions are not deep below the surface. There were many moving parts that made it hard, but the biggest was the pain and struggle that I could see in my children. The foundations of their lives were shaken. All they knew up to that point was Mommy & Daddy.
I can say that this was one of the darkest times in my life. I was hurting in areas and ways I never thought possible. I did hurt from a spiritual perspective because I felt like I had let the Lord down too. I think God HATES divorce. I believe He created marriage to be a beautiful union between a man and a woman to love, serve and reproduce together. Check this out….
3 Some Pharisees came and tried to trap him with this question: “Should a man be allowed to divorce his wife for just any reason?”
4 “Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.’” 5 And he said, “‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ 6 Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.” (Matthew 19:3-6 NLT)
I believe on its best day – divorce is hard. Divorce is not a clean break in a relationship – it is a ripping apart – a tearing that is anything but neat. When people marriage they are completely vulnerable and open with one another. Divorce comes because of deceit, dishonest and mistrust.
I’m thankful that my ex-wife and I were able to let go of so much hurt and allow God to heal wounds. We have figured out how to co-parent and co-grandparent with our children. It has been a lot of work and a long journey, and we are still working on it today, but we have carved out a deep friendship and love for one another that is based on grace and forgiveness. Forgiveness and grace are pre-requisites to healing from divorce. Love heals.
Today, I find myself praying for couples heading to divorce. I am willing to beg and plead with them to work it out. It does take all parties willingness to get back to work. It’s so hard to swallow pride and come back to the table to work on a marriage when so much “water under the bridge” has done so much damage. As a REALTOR, I am often there to sell the house, but I can also pray against divorce. Divorce is a painful part of my journey and I hate to see people go in that direction. I think God hates divorce too.
Pressing On!
Dwayne