I’ve been “pushed on” or “chewed out” before and it’s not really a pleasant experience. As I’ve gotten older, I try to separate the emotion from the truth that is being spoken. It will soon get really clear if there is any substance to what is being said. I have no problems pushing back in these situations. However, if not done correctly, then a full on argument ensues. I believe that TRUTH is non-negotiable. I don’t believe that truth is relative to certain situations and not others. I believe that truth will nearly always come out. When I’m being confronted with the truth, I don’t always want to hear it. Sometimes the presentation is offensive and sometimes it’s the content that is offensive. I really work hard at listening to the emotional outbursts and ranting and raving of the fired up individual. I try hard to see if there is truth behind all the emotion – the yelling and veins popping out of the neck. The calmer I can be in that situation, the more discerning I can be. Paul speaks the to the church at Corinth about how the truth can offend, but it can also bring growth. Check this out….8Even if I caused you sorrow by my letter, I do not regret it. Though I did regret it—I see that my letter hurt you, but only for a little while— 9 yet now I am happy, not because you were made sorry, but because your sorrow led you to repentance. For you became sorrowful as God intended and so were not harmed in any way by us. 10 Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. 11 See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern, what readiness to see justice done. At every point you have proved yourselves to be innocent in this matter. (2 Corinthians 7:8-11 NIV)
I want to open to hearing the truth spoken into my heart. I also want to be bold about speaking the truth into others lives. I don’t want to be judgmental of the other person, but I don’t want to be afraid to confront them. I don’t want to the confrontation to be about my struggles, and me although I may need to do some repentance of my own. I want my relationship with the Lord to be on solid footing prior to confronting the sin of another person. I want godly sorrow in me to produce great spiritual qualities in my life – namely repentance.
I am so imperfect and full of flaws. I need godly sorrow and repentance daily.Pressing On! Dwayne