Own It

 

Praying ManOne of my pet peeves is when someone is responsible for something and it goes badly and they look for others to blame instead of “owning it”. Taking responsibility is sometimes hard, but it’s a sign of maturity. The blame game is easy and the rules are very relaxed – just find someone else to place blame for the issue instead of the person who should own it. For example, if I get pulled over for speeding and I was speeding, it’s not my truck’s fault or the officer’s fault for doing his/her job – it’s on me for driving over the posted speed limit.

I believe that taking responsibility or “owning it” is a sign of humility. It is me admitting that I messed up and I will take responsibility for my behavior. Confession is good for my soul. Check this out…

 If we say, “We have no sin,” we are deceiving ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 10 If we say, “We have not sinned,” we make him a liar, and his word is not in us. (1 John 1:8-10 CSB)

The Lord knows me fully. He knows everything I think. He knows everything I say. He knows everything I do. He knows when I lay down and He knows when I get up. He knows what I’m doing next. He knows what I did in October of 1969 even though I might not remember. He knows all there is to know about me, yet He forgives me and chooses not to remember my sin. I am profoundly grateful for His grace that compels Him to forgive and forget. I have much more to gain by confessing my sin than by denying my sin. I think it’s good to own it as soon as I’m aware of it. His grace is enough to forgive the biggest sin and He removes it from me. I may still have some consequences to pay, but the debt to the Lord has already been paid. When I own my sin, His death covers it in the present tense.

I’m grateful for this arrangement, because without His grace, I’d be doomed to hell many times over.

Pressing On!

Dwayne

Blame Game

Man holding rock with bible verse John 8:7Just about everyone I know is really good at the blame game or has been really good at it in their past. I’ve used phrases like, “I don’t recall you saying that”; “I’m not sure how it got there”; “I have no idea what you are talking about” – the list could go on and on. This word simply means I assign responsibility to another for something I’m really responsible for. Ouch!

As I’ve grown older I realize that the blame game really only works well in politics and sometimes with family. The mature response to blame is to be quick to take responsibility that is mine and genuinely ask for forgiveness. I don’t know anyone who’s perfect except the Lord. I make mistakes and misstatements all the time – I need to be quick to own my actions and my words. Check this out….

30 ‘Therefore, you Israelites, I will judge each of you according to your own ways, declares the Sovereign Lord. Repent! Turn away from all your offenses; then sin will not be your downfall. 31 Rid yourselves of all the offenses you have committed, and get a new heart and a new spirit. Why will you die, people of Israel? 32 For I take no pleasure in the death of anyone, declares the Sovereign Lord. Repent and live! (Ezekiel 18:30-32 NIV)

 

I think the Lord is pretty clear. He really wants me to be totally honest with Him, myself and everyone else. I need to take responsibility that belongs to me. I’ve had a 4-step process that I’ve practiced over the years when I “screw up” or make a big mistake.

  1. Take responsibility that is mine
  2. Ask for forgiveness
  3. Make amends
  4. Move on

I don’t need to be a participant in the blame game. I make enough mistakes without playing that game. I want show maturity and wisdom and own my mistakes. I want to be quick to repent and eager to show respect for others. I have so little time here on earth to prepare for my home in heaven.

Pressing On!

Dwayne

Own It

Abstract Silhouette PrayingI have heard this phrase recently quite a bit – in fact I’ve said it. The phrase means to take responsibility for my actions. If they are good actions or bad actions, I still own them and take responsibility for them. If I make a mistake, I own it.

Taking responsibility for my actions and confession are somewhat related. Confession is agreeing with the Lord what my sin is. Taking responsibility for my sin often brings the consequences of my activity. The people of Israel & Judah were guilty of sinning. They need some deep repentance and heart-changing confession. Check this out…

20 We acknowledge our wickedness, Lord,

    and the guilt of our ancestors;

    we have indeed sinned against you.

21 For the sake of your name do not despise us;

    do not dishonor your glorious throne.

Remember your covenant with us

    and do not break it.

22 Do any of the worthless idols of the nations bring rain?

    Do the skies themselves send down showers?

No, it is you, Lord our God.

    Therefore our hope is in you,

    for you are the one who does all this. (Jeremiah 14:20-22 NIV)

 

If I want to understand my circumstances, I must view them through the eyes of the Lord. When He shows up things change. My circumstances don’t always change when the Lord comes on the scene, but my view of my circumstances changes drastically. His Presence gives perspective. His Presence gives me another angle from which to view my circumstances.

My hope is in the Lord. He created the heavens and the earth. There is nothing that I face that He can’t help me with. I want to daily surrender to His will for me and seek His favor over me. I want Him to reveal to me the way I should go and then He supplies the courage to walk in that way. I want to learn to “own it” when it comes to my behavior, because He’s leading me in His way.

Pressing On!

Dwayne