Called Out

 

Why MeI’ve been “called out” because I’ve done something wrong or stupid. It’s another example of accountability. It’s not pleasant being called out, but it is sometimes necessary. I can’t always see my actions from the proper perspective. I’ve given several people in my life permission to “call me out” if I do something stupid or wrong. My wife has called me out on many occasions for sure. I have close friends who do the same. I seek counsel in areas that my knowledge and experience are lacking so that I won’t be “called out” later. I see law enforcement as “calling me out” if I’m speeding or pushing the limits of the law.

I am a follower of the Lord and I have made a commitment to follow Him. I want my life to honor Him. I am trying to live by the call of the Lord on my life. I want him to prompt the little decisions in my life as well as monumental decisions that I face.

I started reading 1st Peter this morning and I love his perspective because He walked with Jesus and saw His life and ministry up close and personal. Check this out…

Though you have not seen him, you love him; though not seeing him now, you believe in him, and you rejoice with inexpressible and glorious joy, because you are receiving the goal of your faith, the salvation of your souls.

13 Therefore, with your minds ready for action, be sober-minded and set your hope completely on the grace to be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ. 14 As obedient children, do not be conformed to the desires of your former ignorance. 15 But as the one who called you is holy, you also are to be holy in all your conduct; 16 for it is written, Be holy, because I am holy. (1 Peter 1:8-9,13-16 CSB)

I’m facing everyday decisions with Him directing me and prompting me. I have ignored Him at times and regretted it. I have pushed back or ignored being called out and held accountable. I have been humbled and convicted of my sin. I want to walk humbly before the Lord every day asking for His counsel on the smallest daily decisions. I want His help as a Christian. I want His help as a husband. I want His help as a Dad. I want His help as friend. I want His help as a REALTOR.  I am open to be called out by people who know me and love me deeply. If you feel like you need to ask me about decisions that I make I want to always be willing to explain why I do what I do or say what I say. The Word of God often calls me out- I’m open to others close to me calling me out as well.

Pressing On!

Dwayne

Confrontation

 

Man praying with the BibleConfrontation doesn’t come naturally to me. I’d love to get along great with everyone I know without having to confront them or “call them out”. However, there are times when the only way to change the behavior of someone is to speak into him or her using this tactic of confrontation. It doesn’t have to always be negative – there are many times when the outcome is extremely positive even though it took a somewhat “negative process” to get there.

David has had a major lapse in judgment. The Lord sends Nathan, the prophet to call David out. Nathan starts out telling the story of a rich man who had lots of lambs among other riches. He also contrasts the riches of the wealthy man with this poor man, who has only one ewe lamb. When a traveler comes to visit the rich man, he takes the poor man’s lamb to prepare a feast instead of taking one of his own lambs. The story really sets David up to be confronted. Check this out…

5 David burned with anger against the man and said to Nathan, ‘As surely as the Lord lives, the man who did this must die! 6 He must pay for that lamb four times over, because he did such a thing and had no pity.’

7 Then Nathan said to David, ‘You are the man! This is what the Lord, the God of Israel, says: “I anointed you king over Israel, and I delivered you from the hand of Saul. 8 I gave your master’s house to you, and your master’s wives into your arms. I gave you all Israel and Judah. And if all this had been too little, I would have given you even more. 9 Why did you despise the word of the Lord by doing what is evil in his eyes? You struck down Uriah the Hittite with the sword and took his wife to be your own. You killed him with the sword of the Ammonites. 10 Now, therefore, the sword shall never depart from your house, because you despised me and took the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be your own.” (2 Samuel 12:5-10 NIV)

The really cool part of this event is the repentance of David. I believe he was genuinely repentant and broken for his stupid behavior. I can’t imagine how David would have turned out had this confrontation not taken place. We might not have some of the most incredible prayers ever penned in the Psalms. I know we wouldn’t have had Psalm 51 – the incredible Psalm of repentance.

There have been times that I’ve needed to be called out or confronted. The Word of God can also fulfill that role. I know my heart and I know the conflicts inside my heart that happen sometimes every day. I know that my behavior flows out of my heart. I need to confess my sin daily (sometimes hourly) before the Lord. I believe that except for the grace of God, I could make choices like David that are simply stupid and very destructive. I’m thankful that the Holy Spirit in me, nudges me and directs my path. I know that if the Lord needed a 2X4 to whack me, He is certainly capable of that too!

I don’t ever want to become so haughty and proud that I can’t be called out or confronted over my misbehavior or sin.

Pressing On!

Dwayne

Called Out

Woman talking through a megaphone and a man plugging his earsI have been called out before for doing something that is offensive to someone else. Sometimes I don’t realize that I’m hurting someone else – other times I might just not care. There are situations when I need to call someone out that I might decide to wait a minute and there are other situations that need to be called out immediately. The Lord will call me out at a moments notice. I began reading the prophet Isaiah and he is speaking on behalf of the Lord as God calls out His people. Check this out….

15 When you spread out your hands in prayer,
    I hide my eyes from you;
even when you offer many prayers,
    I am not listening.
Your hands are full of blood!
16 Wash and make yourselves clean.
    Take your evil deeds out of my sight;
    stop doing wrong.
17 Learn to do right; seek justice.
    Defend the oppressed.
Take up the cause of the fatherless;
    plead the case of the widow.
18 ‘Come now, let us settle the matter,’
    says the Lord.
‘Though your sins are like scarlet,
    they shall be as white as snow;
though they are red as crimson,
    they shall be like wool. (Isaiah 1:15-18 NIV)

 

The Lord calls me out when I choose to go my own way.

The Lord calls me out when I disobey Him.

The Lord calls me out when I hurt others.

The Lord calls me out when I don’t do what He’s calling me to do.

As I walk with the Lord through His Word and commit my life to Him, He speaks into my life and He directs my path. He will speak into my thoughts before they become activities. He will direct my activities so that my behavior honors Him.

I have been called out on more than one occasion. While I don’t relish that discipline, I realize that I need to be called out in order to walk in His Way and honor Him with all of my life.

Pressing On!
Dwayne

Truth Can Be Tough To Hear

Lies Have Speed Truth Has Endurance SpeedometerI’ve been “pushed on” or “chewed out” before and it’s not really a pleasant experience. As I’ve gotten older, I try to separate the emotion from the truth that is being spoken. It will soon get really clear if there is any substance to what is being said. I have no problems pushing back in these situations. However, if not done correctly, then a full on argument ensues.  I believe that TRUTH is non-negotiable. I don’t believe that truth is relative to certain situations and not others. I believe that truth will nearly always come out. When I’m being confronted with the truth, I don’t always want to hear it. Sometimes the presentation is offensive and sometimes it’s the content that is offensive.  I really work hard at listening to the emotional outbursts and ranting and raving of the fired up individual. I try hard to see if there is truth behind all the emotion – the yelling and veins popping out of the neck. The calmer I can be in that situation, the more discerning I can be.  Paul speaks the to the church at Corinth about how the truth can offend, but it can also bring growth. Check this out….

 8Even if I caused you sorrow by my letter, I do not regret it. Though I did regret it—I see that my letter hurt you, but only for a little while— 9 yet now I am happy, not because you were made sorry, but because your sorrow led you to repentance. For you became sorrowful as God intended and so were not harmed in any way by us. 10 Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. 11 See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern, what readiness to see justice done. At every point you have proved yourselves to be innocent in this matter. (2 Corinthians 7:8-11 NIV)

 

I want to open to hearing the truth spoken into my heart. I also want to be bold about speaking the truth into others lives.  I don’t want to be judgmental of the other person, but I don’t want to be afraid to confront them. I don’t want to the confrontation to be about my struggles, and me although I may need to do some repentance of my own. I want my relationship with the Lord to be on solid footing prior to confronting the sin of another person. I want godly sorrow in me to produce great spiritual qualities in my life – namely repentance.

I am so imperfect and full of flaws. I need godly sorrow and repentance daily.

Pressing On!
Dwayne